Facebook for the Common Good


...And everything feels good for a while.

I want to recognize my friend Liza Van Arsdale-Mitchell for her recent utilization of Facebook to promote goodness. She posted the following:

Special request to kids returning to school in the next few days: If you see someone who is struggling to make friends or being bullied because he/she doesn’t have many friends, because they are shy or not as pretty or not dressed in the most “in” clothes – PLEASE step up. Say hi or at least smile at them in the hallway. You never know what that person might be facing outside of school. Your kindness might just make a BIG difference in someone’s life!

While I am not so old that I do not recall the uncomfortable nature of adolescence and the strong desire to fit in, I also recall moments in which I decided to go against the grain and simply do something because it was good and right. But for the grace of (G)od my children or your children will find acceptance within a group that promotes success and unity.

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Welcome to North Carolina: Any Ideas?


Thank you, North Carolina. Good to be here.

One thing I learned years ago with respect to blogging was that if one was not diligent about writing the blog would become stale. Fair to say that waiting one week before writing anything falls into the category of failing to overcome said obstacle.

However, the time has not been spent simply sitting around waiting for inspiration or the next re-run. My wife’s family had their annual beach weekend in which we celebrate her father’s birthday along with incorporating somewhat of a family reunion for the cousins in Orlando. It was an opportunity for me to talk with Lori Newberg who actively shares information regarding what she does to help in the Tampa area. Lori has been very supportive of our efforts and shares a desire both within the home and the community to look for ways to change behavior for the better.

Immediately after the weekend event was over I loaded up the car and headed to Siler City, NC to spend four days with Chris Gandy. I personally love a good road trip and you would be amazed how time flies when you have the CD player loaded full of music. Most of the Toad the Wet Sprocket catalog assumed the role of event soundtrack, appropriate and planned since Wednesday night at Cat’s Cradle will be spent enjoying the band live.

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What is Change-Can



It started like this…

1. Buy a can of soup.

2. Cook the soup.

3. Eat the soup.

4. Clean the can.

5. Start collecting change in the can.

6. Once filled up, donate the money to your favorite charity.

Something so simple, right? Maybe not original but it was new to me when my good friend Chris Gandy pitched it to his Philosophy class. It inspired me so much I decided to run with the idea and expand upon. Seeing the double entendre  to the phrase “Change Can”, I expressed to Chris a plan by which we could generate some type of grass roots charitable organization\group which serves to look for areas that we can change.

Chris was already in the throes of  his own good works efforts and my speaking up was simply a confirmation that he might be on to something. I personally have been wanting to do something with him for years as graduate school and work had pulled him from Jacksonville, FL to other parts of America (he now resides in Silk Hope, NC).

The birthing process is not yet complete but we are not short on targets. Food pantries are a shared love so our initial focus is there. However, since coaching youth football I have always wanted to start a Pop Warner Scholarship fund that would pay registration for at least one child.

Through the feedback of friends we have been able to find simple areas of need such as helping a local Rotary Club or assisting at the USO. It is not a matter of being part of the organization, but simply finding a need and volunteering time. People do it every day but some might be oblivious to how easy it is to take a few hours out of a Saturday or Sunday.

I know I personally am a bit ignorant as to what is out there outside my little tidal pool, along with how to actually manage a charitable group.

Another gem of an idea from Chris is what you will find below. I am copying from the Change-Can site he created (http://blogspot.change-can.com). It exemplifies the idea of using something small to generate change. Or as my friend Greg Stritch stated – Don’t try to cover too many dots. You empty stretching yourself too thin and you end up covering none at all.

I ask anyone who reads, follows or participates for patience. Chris and I are both learning as we go. Our goal is to earn the trust of those who will donate money. Beyond that we hope Change-Can will become a lifestyle that others will drive in their own towns. A penny, nickel, dime, quarter or dollar at a time. A day picking up trash, gathering fruit that might go to waste or simply taking away someone’s sense of being alone.

Change can also be sharing tips on starting a garden, home repair or fitness. Apathy is our enemy. You decide, is it going to change for the worse or for the better?

For our first official initiative, here’s what we’re proposing. I have 142 friends on Facebook, and I’m guessing that each my friends has at least the same number of friends. You do the math, but that’s just over 20,000 people, and they have friends, etc. Let’s see if we can get everyone to donate $1 for a charitable cause. Even if only 10% responded, that’s $2000, which is a significant amount and could do a lot of good.

The second part of this proposal requires an act of faith on everyone’s part, as I would like everyone to send us $1 in the mail by a certain date – let’s say one month from tomorrow (August 13). At that time, we’ll take the money to the bank, have a cashier’s check issued, and mail the donation to our charity – courtesy of the Change Can group. We’ll keep detailed records, provide receipts for the individual donations, notify everyone when the donation has been made and provide copies of all documentation. Of course, everyone could make a $1 donation online to the same charity, saving a stamp and envelope in the process, but we like the tangibility of letters and the impact of one large donation.

Please forward this note to all of your friends (think of it as spam with nothing but the best of intentions). We appreciate your support. Let’s do something good.
Change-Can

c/o Chris Gandy and Brian Fullford

PO Box 303, Pittsboro, NC 27312